Let’s face it…
We could all be asking better questions.
Questions that lead us to the answers we’re looking for.
Questions that feel better.
The quality of the
question determines the quality of the answer.
When you ask the questions that feel “off”, the answers
you get will be “off”.
And you can discern the quality of the question by the
way the question feels.
The following is a list of questions that I ask myself often. I don’t always get the answers immediately,
but I do believe that these questions lean me in the direction of feeling and
seeing my world differently, which also leads me to having a more satisfying
experience because of the different perspective that they evoke.
I’ve adjusted this post from previous blog I’ve written…
Here are some of those questions: (and this is a short-list) ;)
Ask, “How can I move forward”. Or, “What can I move toward”?
Rather than, “what’s
holding me back”?
Ask, “How do I want
to feel/prefer to feel”?
Acknowledge how you do
feel, knowing that how you feel doesn’t have to remain stagnant.
Ask, “WTF (what’s the feeling) I have when I think about that”?
If you want to read more about WTF…redefined, you can
find it here: http://tell-a-different-story.blogspot.com/2014/07/wtfredefined.html
Ask, “What if I
could, or can”?
Rather than affirming that you can’t.
Ask, “How many good-feeling moments can I experience today”?
Without needing to attach how you feel to any particular
conditions or circumstances.
Ask, “How easy
can it be”? Or, “What if it could be easy”?
Rather than, “Why
is this so hard”?
Ask, “What’s already working”?
Instead of listing what’s not.
Ask, “What are the pro’s of this”?
And leave the con’s out.
Ask, “What’s good right now”?
Because there’s always something good that you’re living
right now.
Ask, “How flexible can I be”?
Without needing to hold to some rigid “rules” you’ve
established for yourself or others.
How you focus affects the life you live.
The content of
your thoughts determine your mood and attitude.
Your mood and attitude
affect your perspective and your perspective…is everything.
Your perspective translates into your point of
attraction.
Your perspective is what you’re living.
Great leaning questions aren’t the only way to engage my
focus. There are also things I do daily to
keep me receptive to embodying the life I want to live. Here are some of those things:
I look for:
Points of harmony
vs. how things are hitting the fan and breaking hell all over.
What I like or prefer vs. what stinks.
What I easily enjoy
or love about my surroundings, the people in my life or what’s in my world.
What I want to move toward and what would move me forward
vs. what’s holding me back.
Pros and leave the
cons out.
Ways to appreciate
vs. ways to criticize or to complain.
Reasons to like and I use dislikes to clarify what I do want.
Ways to make the best
of it vs. ways to make the worst of it.
What’s right about
any given situation vs. what’s wrong with it.
Reasons to compliment and praise vs. reasons to
disparage and insult.
Reasons to make peace vs. writhe against.
Reasons to be willing vs. unwilling.
Reasons to be flexible vs. rigid
in my approach or beliefs.
Add to these, play with these. At first, if you’re not accustomed to managing
your brain waves intentionally, it’ll feel hard. It does
get easier…and you might even get addicted to doing this because of how it feels.
How it feels is the new drug, of sorts.
Just remember, it’s not different from when you’re learning a new
language, a new skill, or getting to the gym to do that workout. It takes practice. It takes application. Once you start seeing the results of your intentional
focus and how it feels to you, it’ll make you want to do it even more.
Old habits of thought can
be replaced with new ones.
Give it a try and let it become your new habit.