What You're Judging is About You

What a mom believes is love for her child is ridiculous over- indulgence to you.

What you think is easy and manageable may be hard and unmanageable to someone else.  

What you believe to be an appropriate and timely way to respond to emails is a distraction and splitting of focus to another.

What you think is organized is someone else’s version of chaos.

What scatter-brained is to you may be creativity to another.

What over-ripe banana is to you may be perfectly sweet and delicious to someone else.

What you consider ho-hum boring and downright uninspiring could be stimulating and fantastically awesome to another.  

What you consider to be late and inconsiderate may be culturally accepted and polite for someone else.

What you perceive as forward and disrespectful may be an expression of appreciation. 

What you find necessary may be overindulgence to someone else.

What someone else describes as luxury may be pickings and slim-seconds to you.

What someone else describes as real accomplishment and productivity may be one hour’s worth of focus in your world.

What someone else believes to be the most beautiful place on the planet, is hell on water to you.

What is old and wrinkled to someone else may be beauty and power combined to you.

What someone else finds soul-filling and rewarding may be lazy and a waste of time to you.

What someone else finds weak is strength and confidence to you.

What is fashionable to one is downright ugly and despicable to you.

There are as many perspectives as there are people in this universe…about everything. 

Do you get mad because all of the apples aren’t the same at the grocery store; or because a restaurant offers several choices on a menu; or because there are different colors in a rainbow?

The world isn’t supposed to be just like you.  Not everyone believes what you do, or has the standards or morals that you do.  Diversity in people and perspectives are as desirable as options on the car lot, variety in the supermarket or alternatives at a restaurant. 

Don’t ask the world to change.   Don’t hold someone else in charge of how you feel.  Don’t let their business be yours, even if you disagree with their approach or take on life. 

What you’re judging and having an emotional response to is about you and your interpretation of it.  So keep it about you and don’t make them the culprit. 

You could ask yourself these questions:

1)      How’s this about me?

2)      What’s being amplified within me in terms of how this makes me feel?

3)      Can I be easier in my approach to this…do I need everyone to be and think just like me?

You can’t know for sure what another person wants, or where they are comparative to their desires.  You can’t know for sure the life they’ve lived, the troubles they’ve experienced, or their unique and individual perspectives that have been born. 

You can choose what you want and who and how you want to be in the world you live in, just don’t ask anyone else to be that for you.


This is my blog post #5 as part of the #braveblogging project by Illana Burk of makenessmedia.com