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Thursday, March 17, 2011

What if???

I found myself thinking a few minutes ago about a situation that I'm currently in, and a part of, as it's affecting my life and the way I live, and I noticed that as "real" as the condition(s) are, as "real" as the reality of it is, and as much of it as I'm living, I feel somewhat detached from it.  Although I do have some negative emotional responses to it, overall, it...that reality, doesn't feel real to me.  And so that thought led me to wondering how I'm a match to this...how is it that I've attracted this into my life, and how is it that I've become a part of it?  As a coach, I see myself as a "solution" so to speak, and I never see myself as part of the "problem" being perceived.  People discuss things with me that they're currently experiencing, and I offer different perspectives about it without getting emotionally involved in the reality that they're living, but rather, in the reality that they prefer.  I don't "hold" all of the answers, but I can be a catalyst to discovering their own answers that were there all along, or I can help them move toward their solutions.  So then I thought....well, what if I'm the "solution" in this situation as well?  What if, rather than being a part of the "problem", as I've perceived myself to be, what if I'm involved with and part of this, because I am part of the solution?  What if, I'm part of allowing the solution to come?  What if, my role in this is just as I see myself when I'm coaching?  What if???  That simple change of perspective (that I'm part of the solution rather than the problem) puts me on a very different end of receiving ideas that will flow, and could now open up more solutions to occur to me.  That idea feels really good to me, so I'm going to decide right here and now that that is my role here and I'll let ideas about solutions naturally occur to me and see what happens.

Sunday, March 13, 2011

I like this "gig"

This "blogging" gig is so much fun for me.  Whether or not anyone ever reads it, or even likes anything that I write for that matter, it's very satisfying to me.  I'm doing it to flow the energy through me, for the joy of it in the moment, and that is so fulfilling in so many ways.  No matter what you decide to focus on, it doesn't matter what it is...it could be your child, your work as an accountant, your current business deals, taking out the garbage, cleaning the house, drawing, painting, reading, having a conversation with someone....all of it is for the creation of it and your current focus is a way for energy to flow through you and I'm discovering that there's nothing better than that.

Do you like what's unfolding?

Is there anything in your life you want to change?  Anything that you'd like to improve?  Anything that appears to just stay the same that you'd like have a better experience of?  What sort of dialogue do you have about it?  What's the story you're weaving about it?  Do you keep regurgitating what you would prefer and how you would like it to unfold or improve, or, do you continually tell the story about the way it is, and how you don't like it and what you don't like about it?  Is there any part of the story that you're telling that you'd like to continue to experience?  Any part at all....????  Then why are you telling it?  Whether you know it or not, you're always creating with the words you speak and the emotions you feel and if you want what you’re telling to be your reality, then go ahead, keep on telling that story.  I've noticed myself telling someone, or going over something in my own mind, about something that I really would not prefer to experience, but I'm telling the story of the way it is, rather than the way I'd like it to be.  It's always to my benefit to pay attention to the stories I'm telling because just as I would write a script for a movie and then see it come to life on the big screen, my life becomes the big screen and the story I was telling comes to life.  Soooooo…. What are you going to choose?  If you like the story you’re telling, if it feels good to you….go ahead, keep on telling the stories about this, that and the other thing, but if the stories you’re telling contain any particle of that which you would not/prefer not, to experience, whether it be for the first time, or again, then don’t tell that part of the story and add a part in that you do like.  You’re writing the script to all of it.  You have total creative control and if you want some drama in your movie, then tell those parts that you don’t like and keep talking about them, and it will create some emotional “drama” (contrast) in your movie and it may make it more interesting for onlookers or for those listening to the story and it may seem to make your journey worthwhile to experience some things you really don’t want, and it may even be a really good point of conversation, and it may even be true because you’ve seen others experience it, or you’ve experienced it yourself, but that is never a good enough reason to continue to tell the story of what you don’t want to create (or re-create).  You’re always creating your future in your present moment through your focus.  If you want to create more of that, then, have at it, keep talking about it.  If you want to experience something a little more to your liking and you have different preferences about it, then now is the time to begin weaving another version of the story.   Again, you’re always telling a story; no matter what it is that you’re talking about, or thinking about, or giving your attention to, you are telling a story, and you are in essence, telling your life’s story that’s going to unfold for you right in front of your very eyes.







Why wait?

Why wait until some time later when I can be happy?  Why wait until I get the new car, or the new dress, or that contract, or until anything or anyone changes, before being happy?  I've heard myself say, "I'll be happy when....".  Knowing what I know now, it's just something I used to say, and I say it less and less, for I know that I can be happy now, and I don't have to wait.  It's not the condition(s) that need to change before I choose to  be happy anyway, it's my perspective that allows me to enjoy my current place.  I can find benefit and I can find positive aspects about anything if I look for it, and if I wait to be happy until this, that, or the other thing change to be more to my liking in some way, I could be waiting forever, because there's always something that I'm "molding" into place.  It's a never-ending thing.  So by choosing to be happy now, no matter what, truly is enjoying the journey.  And I'm happy to enjoy the journey on my way to more.....





The doll goes in the fridge...if she wants to

I was holding Franki up to the fridge one day, and she stuck her doll in it.  My knee-jerk response to that was, "the doll doesn't go in the fridge, silly monkey".  I was also on the phone at the time, and my friend who heard me say that, said, "why not"?  And he was right.  Why doesn't the doll go in the fridge?  Who made the rule about dolls belonging in the fridge or not? As simple as all of that sounds, it had a large impact on me, because in that moment, I saw how much I can mold my daughter through the lens through which I view the world.  My opinions, my beliefs, become part of her world through observation, and unless and until she has her daughter put her doll in the fridge some day, she may or may not ever question that.  I have this great opportunity every day to influence my daughter, and my desire for her is to follow what feels best to her, to follow her own guidance, and not let my criteria for what's "right" "wrong" or "better" be her criteria.  I want her to decide that moment by moment to the best of her ability...and I trust and know that that is what's best for her.

Friday, March 11, 2011

I love Barney

I love Barney!  And yes, by Barney I mean the very big purple dinosaur with green spots on his back.  With lines like, "no one misses the bus to imaginary adventures", and the pizza song that includes, "pizza, pizza...it's my tummy's favorite", and songs about imagination, and you can do anything...  What could be better than being with a 2 year old, right along side of her discovering her world full of possibilities and having Barney to sing along with?!? 

Franki's Perspective...

My mom just looked at me and said "you are amazing"....as if I didn't already know that.  I mean, I know it so purely, it's no news to me that I'm amazing. There's no one else like me, expressing as me, offering my very own unique perspective and point of view about life through my eyes.  That's what I would have said could I have strung those words together...but I don't need to offer it in words, I can just offer it through my knowing....My mom "got" it without me having to say a thing.  Sometimes, words are unnecessary, aren't they?

So good....

There's nothing in my world that is as satisfying, fulfilling and meaningful as holding my daughter close as she sits on my lap.  She smells wonderful (mostly) ;), her skin is so soft, and she is sooooo....indescribably wonderful in each and every way.  Who knew that being a mom could be so great? I certainly didn't, and I am so appreciative to have the priviledge of having this wonderful little being in my life.  I looked at her today as we were looking out the window at the deer in our yard, and I said, "you are amazing"....and she looked at me with this knowing smile and twinkle in her eyes as if to say, "But of course, mommy....I am amazing".

Focus

Why would I ever focus on things that don’t feel good to me?  As I create my own reality and how I think and feel is what manifests, as I ponder things that don’t feel good to me, so am I creating more of that.  The answer lies in the Law of Attraction’s power to bring more of what I’m thinking to me.  I (and many others) have been “trained” to believe that I must focus on a perceived “problem” to solve it.  And I use the term “perceive” loosely because that’s all it is…it is my perception that is labeling whatever I’m giving my attention to as a “problem”.  I could just as easily label it as an opportunity for change, or improvement, or answers.   If I smelled something foul in a room, would I continually return to the room to make sure it smells foul?  No, not likely.  I’d walk out of the room.  So, as I decide that feeling good is important to me, I begin to change my focus from “problem” perception to opportunity within this situation.  And as I do that, I am more allowing of solutions to “uncover” themselves.

NOW

Your most powerful point of creation is NOW.  It’s not later, it’s not yesterday, it’s NOW.  It’s how you choose to respond, it’s how you choose to feel NOW, that creates your future and re-creates your past.  You can re-create your past from how you feel NOW, and you can create your future experience by how you feel right NOW. Where is your focus right NOW?  You have no other moment but NOW.  The future is just an idea and the past is just a thought that you are choosing to focus on.  Whatever contrast you’re experiencing, or whatever conditions you’re living, it’s how you choose to respond right NOW that determines what comes next for you.  How are you going to respond?  Are you going to make the worst of it, or are you going to make the best of it?  Are you choosing to look at the positive aspects or are you choosing the negative aspects?  For in all situations, there is some of all of it, and you always have a choice.  The power of choice is NOW.  What are you choosing?