Are there things you want?

We all have things we want that we don’t have.  We all have times in our lives when it feels like things aren’t working out so well for us or that things should be better or different than they currently are.

We all want more closet space or a better or different car, better health, a better body - fewer wrinkles here, less fat there, more definition here; we all want a mate who understands us, or a different mate, or one or none or more if you’re into that.  We all want a clean house, or a vacation home, or a different job, or more pay, or more work or less work.  We all want things to go well for our kids, and our families to be happy and the people around us to be well.  We all want a body that’s less sore or more active or fitter; we all want recognition and to be treated fairly.  We all want to make the big leagues while we’re playing the little leagues or we all want to make it to the NHL when we’re playing on a farm team.  We all want to be rock stars when we’re playing the local gigs or we all want more money in the bank than we currently have.  We all want a body that is well and disease-free; we all want a clean bill of health at our next check up.  We all want our mate to be home more and to work less or we all want to travel and be adventurous and free.  We all want to feel good.  We all want to be happy.

If everything we want is because we imagine or associate good experiences and good feelings with it once we have it, the same can also be said, “everything that we don’t want is because we associate “bad” things and anticipate feeling bad once we have it.  Why is this idea so important?  Well, keeping what I just said in mind, what if you could look at what you’d label as things unwanted that you’re currently living or fear bringing into your experience from the perspective that it’s the emotion that I’m associating with the condition or perceived outcome that’s upsetting me; the situation in and of itself holds no power over me.  What if you could see it in such a way that nothing “bad” ever happens, that everything and everyone in your life is of value to you  in some way and that everything is exactly as it should be.  What if you were born knowing that every situation in your life, every person, every condition is of value to you?  Would you then push against those things that you deem unwanted?  Would life be such a “scary” place to live?  Would you have to feel so guarded?  So disappointed?  So needing to be somewhere else than you are?  In such a hurry to get it done, get it over with, deal with it, get rid of it?  What if you could make peace with whatever it is that you’re living…make peace with wherever you are…whether you have a diagnosis that you find unpleasant, or you’re just not yet living in the house of your dreams or you don’t have your arms wrapped around the love of your life yet…..wherever you are on your path.  What if making peace with where you are is the missing link to everything in your life improving or changing?  Would you then be willing to look for the value, reach for thoughts that feel better, and make the best of where you are?  When you choose to see no value in what you’re living or experiencing, and choose to see yourself as a victim, or having bad luck or no luck at all, or having been born on the wrong side of the tracks, or that you should be living anything other than where you are or what you are and you keep observing and commenting and thinking about where you are (which isn’t where you think you want to be in your life) and making the worst of it rather than the best of it, you’re in fact making it worse for yourself by activating a vibration that the Universe matches; which means, that thing you wish you weren’t living or that thing you wish would change, never gets better or takes a helluva long time in improving or changing.  Not to mention how awful or bad you feel while you’re focused in this way.  When you resist what-is, it just persists. 

When I say make peace with where you are and make the best of it, I’m not implying to put a happy-dappy fake face on and ignoring how you feel about your current situation.  That would be like seeing your house on fire and pretending it’s not happening.  I’m also not saying that you need to accept unwanted things.  I mean, just don’t struggle against what-is.  Let it be what it is for now.  I mean, take a look-see and explore how you feel, allow yourself to become aware of how you feel and make it completely ok to be feeling what you’re feeling.  Nobody’s telling you that you should feel differently than you are about whatever it is.  You should feel exactly as you do…and, would you like to feel better?  Can you imagine going on a vacation and being unhappy about where you are every mile, every second, every bit along the way and being upset that there’s a journey involved in getting to your destination?  If you were to climb a mountain, would you expect level terrain the whole way?  Would you freak out if you came to some rougher terrain?  Well, that’s what I’m asking you to consider.  Do you need to be unhappy or do you need to have a freak about where you are on your journey; complaining, wishing things were different or better, making the worst of your situation at just about every opportunity you have, and pushing against it all the way, or, can you at least consider the idea that accepting where you are as just the beginning of your journey will ease the emotional discomfort that you’re feeling around the subject and, will set the wheels rolling in the direction of what you desire.  This could be an opportunity for you to discover and know something that you didn’t know before.  This could be an opportunity for you to feel something you’ve been wanting to feel.  If you could see the absence of something wanted or the presence of something unwanted as a viable, valuable and important part of the journey that you’re on, you could potentially let go of a whole lot of resistance which is the only thing that keeps you from what you want.  Every experience that you have in your life is shoring you up for more…every defining moment sets you up for more knowing, more understanding and more satisfying life experiences.